In the shadow of my hurt, forgiveness feels like a decision to reward my enemy. But in the shadow of the cross, forgiveness is merely a gift from one undeserving soul to another. Forgiveness is the gift that ensures my freedom from a prison of bitterness and resentment. When I accept forgiveness from God, I’m set free from the penalty of my sin; when I extend forgiveness to my adversary, there’s a sense in which I’m set free from his sin as well.
Andy Stanley Breaking Free from the Four Emotions That Control You ENEMIES of the HEART